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Post by milspec6 Tue Jun 07, 2016 8:04 pm

I just received a call from my sister, the family has decided to transfer my Father to a nursing home in the morning. He suffers from multiple health issues, but the biggest one is ALZ which he has had now for 4 years. As a family, we have all tried to visit several times per week to take the stress off of our Mother who has really been tested all this time, but it doesn't always work out.

Even though it is no doubt for the best, it will not go well. Having already gone through this with his Father just 6 years ago, Dad has made it very clear to all of us that he will fight anyone that tries to do the same with him. He has always accused us of plotting against him when there are more than 3 of us visiting....he normally locks himself into his room when that happens.

I am the sole member of the family that doesn't support the move. I know that it would be good for my Mother, but I have trouble forcing anyone into a nursing home that does not want to go. Even if your mental capacity is diminished, I still think you should have the final say in your life.

Not to sound grim, but I carry the high risk gene for ALZ as well and suspect that I will be in the same situation in another 20 years. When I ask myself what my wishes would be, it would be to remain in my own home to the end. I can't imagine being locked away in a nursing home by my own family and I sure can't imagine wanting to live long in a place like that.

I don't think I can convince myself to go over there tomorrow.....don't think I can handle the likely scene.
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Post by Matt; My carpet cleaner Tue Jun 07, 2016 10:56 pm

I feel for you.
My brother in law is in his final,stage because of Alzheimer.
They just requested hospice for him.
He was dignosised at about age 47.


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Post by milspec6 Tue Jun 07, 2016 11:16 pm

Age 47?  That is horrible, the man is still way too young to have that happen.  My Grandfather was diagnosed at 70, my Father at 62.  In both cases, they just retired and looking forward to enjoying life.

It is one of the key reasons that I had to quit the job at the plant, I don't want to waste my present for a potential future.  It is also why I started playing guitar...hope that keeps my mind active.

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Post by Mo Wed Jun 08, 2016 6:46 am

Thats a tough one Rob sorry to hear that. Is 24 hour nursing care an option, Not sure if that is even an option or tat would replace a nursing home.

With regards to your future and ALZ. As much as your exercise and as healthy as you eat. I don't think that would necessarily be your faith
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Post by milspec6 Wed Jun 08, 2016 9:05 am

We had a nursing service come by 2x per week, but it was their suggestion that it was probably time for the nursing home. Nobody wants to face it yet, so we are gathering at noon today to decide.

I would like to think that ALZ will not be my future, but I just have a suspicion that it will not pass me. I take after my Father in a lot of traits...more than any in my family, and I look just like my Grandfather. Add to that, my glaucoma is developed by the same part of the brain that ALZ attacks. My total risk level is fairly high.

Oh well, I could get hit by a bus tomorrow too, no sense in worrying about it now. It does make me pay more attention to how I spend my time. I am not one who will sit around watching tv to "pass the time". Passing time is never my goal.
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Post by ACpower1 Wed Jun 08, 2016 1:26 pm

sorry to hear this Rob, we went through the same thing with my grandma.

Lots of ex-nfl players are going through the same at very young ages due to CTE. Early 40s and being diagnosed with ALZ symptoms is just not right
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Post by milspec6 Wed Jun 08, 2016 1:40 pm

Not right at all....thanks man.
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Post by dp1 Wed Jun 08, 2016 5:37 pm

Sorry to hear that Sad
I haven't seen my dad since 1999, this posting made me a little emotional Smile
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Post by Cjcann Wed Jun 08, 2016 5:57 pm

A lot of interesting research on Alzhiemers these days. An Italian doctor claims to have cured his wife by installing a shunt in her brain to drain off an accumulation of heavy metals. Another claims that 2 tblspns. of coconut oil  per day has reversed this disease in their loved one. Although research says otherwise I have tried to eliminate any factors that I can. No deodorant with aluminium or fluoride toothpaste for that matter. It is an epidemic that's is exploding in this country and this world. They say that it will get exponentially worse in the the coming years. Sorry about your mom and Dad, hang in there.
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